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In my travels all over the web, I come across many comments and blogs by women who obviously are not deep thinkers, ranting about how men are cheaters, dogs, perverts, etc. Usually they generalize men negatively as less moral or virtuous than the female gender. And to me, this is as derogatory as racism . One of the more common posts I encounter is the inversion of the one I have edited below in defense of us men...
Before you profile and bash every man that you have ever chosen, think about how while youre doing so, another woman is showing men respect by not lumping them all into a giant turd ball. While youre creating problems, another woman is humble and patient enough to listen. While youre too busy "not needing a man, but wanting one", The real women are making time for men. While youre making him wait for affection, while you stroke your ego, other ladies are workin their sexy, getting him to smile and spend. While you cant decide who, what or how many men you want attention from, Other women who are focused, have already figured that out. Just sayin it for real, from the side of straight men.
To men who are seeking sex without comittment: Be an honest man. It's really not hard if you have self-respect and you do think from the top down instead of from your penis when you see a sexy hot babe. But guess what? There are more coming down the road. Not to demean women, but I'm just pointing out that you dont have to trick anyone to get what you want. Just tell her up front that you are not interested in being a boyfriend, but that you do find her extremely attractive and you would love to have sex with her someday. Now what is the worst that might happen? You get slapped? Nah, not if she knows the law. Or she might just roll her eyes and walk away. But maybe she is mature and will politely decline. So now all youre left with is to move on to another. It might take a day, a week or longer, depending on how well you assert yourself, but I can promise that rejection is not fatal. The more it happens, the stronger you become. And women want sex just as much as you. They too, are lonely for affection. But they tend to be vague about it. Just overlook that and believe in yourself. Happy hunting!
I guess I'm guilty of this too. And that annoys me. Like when I see young brothas rollin' with 26 inch rims on an older GM car, I think, 'oh yeah. Hoodrat'. Or white guys with goatees, no mustache driving big pick-ups, I think, ' I bet they dislike black people'. Or like when some women think youre attractive, they cant wait to assume that you are a womanizer or a 'player' if you happen to be black because white men must not be shifty enough? But It's really how prejudices get started. And if youre ignorant enough, profiling and then, racism or sexism which is just as narrow-minded, will set in. People dont like to think far enough to evaluate others as decent and equal. We like to shorrten and label things to suit our lazy minds conveniently. But in fairness, some things are misleading and mixed messages can be confusing. Like women who dress in revealing or tight clothes that cpmpliment their curves, but insist that they want no attention from men. It reminds me of when Dave Chappelle proposed to go out dressed in a policeman's uniform and when someone might call for his assistance, he said he would answer something like, "Now just hold on... Just because I am dressed in this uniform, DOES NOT mean that you can just use me to save you!"
I probably shouldnt bother, but sometimes yeah, I wonder what goes though some ladies minds, especially the young ones who post all the "do's and donts". Do they get insulted when an Afr-O.G like me hits on their like button or rates them or their pic an 11? I mean, if they are young or white and think they are too cool or cute for anyone outside their race or age group. I really prefer women above age 45 to get serious with because I know they can relate to deeper topics and remember things I might talk about that happned back say, around the 1970's. But I'm not too old to appreciate a pretty face or fine body of any legal age. So if you see me peepin' atcha, dont get all stuck up thinkin' youre too good or fine. Just roll with it just like the rest of your life because if you're blessed to live long enough, the day will come when your tight body shape will loosen up and relax. Then you will need to have some wise brain sexiness goin' on. And by then you should be respecting the difference between the genders and smart enough to be flattered if any men, young or old, turn around for that booty look as you stroll past on the block. I'm just real talkin' here.
I know this is not a political forum. But I guess cant help noticing how Obama haters love to trash him by calling him a socialist and comparing him to evil people like Hitler and Hussein. I guess this is to try and even the racism score so they dont have to bother adressing the issue that there is no reverse racism. There are no sane black people who hate or discriminate against white people just because they are not black. Period. But now that we have a black man in charge of the country and their lives, there are many white males who just will not stand for such humiliation. But as black people are often advised when the race card or issue of discrimination arises, "Aww get over it. Slavery is over."
Most accusations about Socialism are due to critics confusing European-style social democracies, whose benign policies guarantee a fairly comprehensive social safety net, with brutal, Soviet-style totalitarianism. In 2009, honest-to-Pete socialist Billy Wharton, editor of The Socialist magazine, stated that "Not only is [Obama] not a socialist, he may in fact not even be a liberal." To explain why the president was, in his words, a "hedge-fund democrat," Wharton cited Obama's refusal to structurally change the financial system, his refusal to institute single-payer health care, and his aggressive foreign policies -- all of which would be grounds for kicking him out of the socialist club. And isnt social security, instituted befor the President was born, a form of socialism?
I hear the word being tossed around by conservatives, Rick Perry, Gingrich, Sabtorum and the ever brilliant Rush LimbaUGH and other people who hate the poor who cry, “Obamacare is socialism!” They falsely equate Western European-style socialism, and its government provision of social insurance and health care, with Marxist-Leninist totalitarianism. It is dull-minded and cheapens the experience of millions who lived, and continue to live, under brutal forms of socialism. What we need here is not to strive for a perfect social justice — which never existed and never will — but for social harmony. Harmony in music is, by its nature, exhilarating and soothing. In an orchestra, the different players and instruments perform together, in support of an overall melody. Today, our democracy, a miraculous gathering of diverse players, desperately needs that kind of unity. If all participants play fair and strive for the common good, we can achieve a harmony that eluded the doctrinaire socialist projects. But if just one section, or even one player, is out of tune, as in the 'we are all separate, self-ndulgent mentality', the music will disintegrate into cacophony.
This is the way I have figured out this dating game. You get what you pay for. Generally a woman who hasnt done much thinking about life will pursue in a subtly feminine way, the guy that seems to have the phat funds she desires to live the material life. And an inexperienced man who keeps his mind right next to getting laid will seek to accomodate this kind of woman. Now, this kind of reasoning of mine also applies when we observe the kind of man or woman we feel deserves what we have. Whether it be gorgeous looks or phat funds and looks in the man's case. It's like when I was younger, I always fell for the 'big butt and a smile' because I wasnt looking, didnt know how or care to appreciate a woman beyond seeking to hop and drop in bed with her. So like a sucker, I got burnt a lot. Not that they meant to hurt me. But I set myself up for the fall because I was inexperienced. I was fascinated by the fun-loving, "friendly to all men" free spirited bombshells.
But then, I also forgot that when you step out there guys blingin' the cash and cars, ladies with your skirt short and cleavage on display, the playa wolves come after you and get you sprung before you know who you're talking to. Now, dont get it twisted. I'm not judging anyone here, because I also nightclubbed my way into a few bedrooms and still spend my share of time ogling some really beautiful Fubar T&A photos. But we all need to remember that the people in life that we feel wronged and hurt us were also picked by us, for whatever reason we care to admit. They were actually invited into our lives without much screening beyond the superficial criteria I mentioned at the beginning. Yes, you really do get what you pay for. Here's part of a quote from a friend on here...
But imes havechanged. Being inconsiderate is not the sole domain of me. I could this about many women I have known. Someone is out there brainwashing women to believe that only men are immoral.
Not because I'm rude, hate parties or kids. It's because I know it is a pagan creation, not based on any truth, mainly profitable for corporate retailers. And they're already ballin' outa control. But I do love giving and showing love. I just dont need to believe in a magical dude in a red suit or play simon says once a year to prove it. The World Book Encyclopedia describes Jesus Christ as "certainly one of the most unfluential people who ever lived." And great men have proved it by what they did during life. So why do we prefer to measure Jesus by his birth instead? Throughout Christendom, most people can recount the events surrounding his birth. How many recall and strive to apply his superlative teaching as found in the Sermon on the Mount?
Even though I should and do try, I can't say that I live by everything the Bible advises. But I just dont believe that Jesus was born in either December or January. The Bible simply states at Luke 2:8-11: “There were also in the same country shepherds living out of doors and keeping watches in the night over their flocks. And suddenly God's angel stood by them, and . . . the angel said to them: ‘. . . There was born to you today a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.’” And facts point to Jesus’ birth not in the winter of December, but at approximately the beginning of warmer October when shepherds with their flocks would still spend the night in the fields. The countryside around Bethlehem experiences the coldest weather during the months of December and January. Hence, to keep them warm at night, flocks are herded into protective shelters. Another reason: The only event Jesus specifically instructed his followers to commemorate was his death, not his birth, and this was to be done as Luke 22:19,20 states, a simple communion meal. Note, too, that this is why the Gospels of Mark and John are silent about Jesus’ birth. So please dont step up and try and diffuse my beliefs or hate on me if I have'nt sent you or posted xmas greetings. You are free to tell stories to your kids, sing carols and party all season and love it.. Thats your perogative. Mine is about practicing that kind of kind spirit all year long, as a way of life, they way it should have always been.
