A "Secret" Body Language Women Find Irresistible
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***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Hello Dave,
I want to say thank you for the Advanced CD
Series. The more I listen to it, the more I get
out of it. Its like when you watch a movie about
53 times, you'll always find something new that
you didn't notice the previous times you watched
it. When I first invested on your book, I thought
that it was fantastic chic bible, now that I've
invested in the CD Series, I understand more of
what you talk about in the book. The DVD Series
is next...as soon as I get the ins...lol.
Anyway, to my question. You talk about how
body language will affect the moment, if you will,
while conversing with a woman. Perhaps I still do
not understand how the process works, or maybe its
just one of those things that men aren't supposed
to understand, but if you're talking with a woman,
oh lets say at a baseball game, somewhere where
friends may spot you, and you wonder off to your
friends without her as if "you don't care," you
say it is creating tension between the two of you,
because she's wondering "where the hell did he
go?" but is that not creating some sort of
negative body language in a way at the same time?
A little help understanding this will greatly
be appreciated, Dave. I'm sure I'm not the only
one who doesn't capture this concept. Thanks
again. D. Yuma, Arizona
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your email, this is a great
question.
I think that the reason you don't "get" this
particular concept is because you're trying to fit
what I'm teaching you into your way of seeing the
world, instead of the other way around.
You're looking for how I'm WRONG instead of how
I'm RIGHT.
And I'll bet you dimes to dollars that you have
not spent much time TESTING what you've learned in
the real world.
I can sit here all day long and explain to you
what it's like to drive a car. I can tell you how
it's different steering a car when you're driving
5 miles per hour than it is when you're driving 55
miles per hour... and how it's different to back
up because you have to think in reverse...
...and you could ask me questions like "Well,
how do you mean it's "backwards" when you back up?
Wouldn't it just feel the same?" and "Wouldn't it
be distracting to turn your windshield wipers on
while it's raining and you're trying to drive?"...
...and I could answer all of your questions...
...OR...
...you could just get in a damn car and go see
what it's like to drive!
If you want to "capture this concept" you need
to get out in the real world and DO IT.
In your example above, you asked if you're also
creating "some sort of negative body language" at
the same time by walking away from a woman.
What do you mean by "negative"?
And if it WORKS, WHO CARES?
Do you mean that if you walk away from a girl
that you're talking to, are you going to make her
think you don't like her?
GOOD, if she thinks that. Who cares?
If you walk away from a woman because you want
to go talk to your friends, it's HER DEAL if she
doesn't like it. Not yours.
If, on the other hand, you see your friends,
but DON'T go talk to them because you don't want
to offend the girl you're talking to, you're going
to probably also give her several clues that
you're a WUSSBAG, and that you don't have any
spine or life of your own... and that you like to
live in a way that pleases other people.
And guess what?
That is NOT an attractive quality.
Look...
Everything is a trade-off in one way or
another.
Everything involves risk.
Everything you do can backfire.
Most guys are painfully aware of these issues.
But, the problem is that most guys take this
knowledge and use it the WRONG WAY.
Instead of doing what WORKS, and not caring if
it "backfires" or "fails" in that particular
situation, they do the "safe" thing.
Of course, anytime you "play it safe" around an
attractive woman by being a "nice guy" and trying
to "follow her lead" you are almost ABSOLUTELY going to
do something that's going to backfire on you MOST
of the time.
In other words, by playing it safe and being a
"nice" guy, you won't get any "negative" responses
or "rejection" in the moment.
But, she's NEVER going to feel ATTRACTION for
you, either (unless you look like Brad Pitt, or
you're in Cold Play).
The answer?
Before I tell you, I want to suggest that you
don't understand one other KEY element of creating
ATTRACTION with a woman. And you can learn about
that key element by going HERE:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/OnBeingAMan/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=2
Stop worrying about "failing" or doing
something that doesn't work.
It doesn't MATTER if you "fail" in a particular
situation.
You didn't have anything ANYWAY.
If you want to succeed with attractive women,
you're going to have to realize that things don't
work the way they SHOULD work.
Attraction doesn't happen when you're a "nice,
appropriate boy".
Here's an example of "being nice" vs. being a
guy who lives in his own reality and does what he
wants to do:
You're talking to a girl, and you decide that
you like her.
You want to get her phone number and call her
sometime.
Nice guy says, "Um, maybe you could give me
your number, and I could call you sometime and
take you out".
Guy who lives in his own reality says, "Give me
your number" with a tone of voice and body
language that is EXPECTING her to comply.
But, you might say, "Hey, wait a minute here...
if you just try and tell her what to do and ASSUME
that she's going to go along and give you her
number, she might be offended".
Guess what?
You're right.
But, if she's offended, then she wasn't going
to go out with you anyway.
On the other hand, if she WAS going to go out
with you, the direct "Give me your number" will
make her FAR MORE attracted to you.
Make sense?
In other words, the things that work BEST will
get you MUCH BETTER and MUCH WORSE reactions from
women.
Women who have boyfriends, are married, are
lesbians, or whatever will RUN away... (that is,
if they can overcome their emotional attraction to
your communication style).
And women who are available and interested will
only feel MORE attracted to you because you are
just naturally assuming that you're going to get
what you want.
If you really take the time to think about it,
and think through the different scenarios, you'll
realize that being direct and assumptive will work
better in the long run.
Now, let's talk a bit about the specifics of
what it "says" to a woman when you "walk away"
from her in a situation like the one you've
described...
You're talking to her for five minutes. She's
laughing and you're being Cocky & Funny... you're
teasing her, she's responding by hitting you and
opening her mouth with the "Oh-no-you-didn't-just-
say-that" look.
You see your friends.
You say, "Hey, good talking to you... I'm going
to go talk to my friends" and you walk away.
What happens?
Does she think, "That jackass! I'm so offended
that he didn't ask for my number!"?
Does she say to her friend, "That guy is stupid
because he could have gotten my number and he
didn't even ask for it"?
Does she immediately walk away and leave?
No, probably not.
In fact, what she will MOST LIKELY do, if you
were being interesting and attractive, is think to
herself "What just happened? Why did he leave?
Should I go with him and keep talking to him?
Should I just leave because he probably doesn't
like me? Did I say something wrong?".
In other words, she's going to stand there
thinking about YOU and what she can do to start
the conversation again.
Really.
Is this creating some kind of "negative
tension"?
Yes, it is.
But, it's not the kind of negative tension that
makes situations with women go BAD.
It's the OTHER KIND. It's the kind that leads
to SEXUAL TENSION and CHEMISTRY.
Now, the BEST thing you can do in a situation
like this one is to say "Hey, I'm going to get
back to my friends over there... good talking to
you..." and then turn to walk away.
Right after you've "broken the connection" and
she's starting to go into the "what just happened
and why is he leaving" mode, you turn BACK around
and say "Hey, do you have email?"... then go into
the 3 minute email/number technique that I talk
about in my ebook and Advanced Series.
Get it?
Another important thought...
When you have to "say" something about who you
are as a man, how interesting you are, or how much
she should feel attracted to you with WORDS, it
automatically creates doubt... because if it was
true, then you wouldn't need to SAY it.
It would be OBVIOUS.
In other words, the best way to communicate all
of the most IMPORTANT things is through your BODY
LANGUAGE.
What most guys try to do is CONVINCE a woman to
feel ATTRACTION by telling her all kinds of things
about themselves and trying to subtly drop little
hints about making money, driving a cool car, etc.
BORING.
And worse, it usually BACKFIRES.
Women can smell the "I'm actually insecure, so
I am trying to cover up for it by bragging" rap a
mile away.
It makes them RUN (unless they're out to use
you for free food and entertainment).
If you want to say all the right things in the
shortest possible time, then you need to learn how
to communicate with body language and voice tone
ALONE.
WHAT you say isn't very important at all.
It really isn't.
HOW you say it is EVERYTHING.
Go back through your copy of my Advanced Series
and notice all of the subtle body language points
that I make, and think about what you've just
read... it will pull everything together for you.
As you probably know, I also have a complete
program that's dedicated to teaching you how to
use Body Language to create ATTRACTION.
I highly recommend that you go and get yourself
a copy of that program. It will help you out
TREMENDOUSLY. You can check out some
video clips of it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/BodyLanguage/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=3
Oh, and if you're reading this right now and
you would like to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION for you, then you need to check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program.
I spend a lot of time going over the specifics
of how to communicate beliefs, status, and self-
image in a way that really triggers the
"attraction mechanism" inside of women. I'll give
you a great introduction the how to use Body
Language as well.
This material isn't available anywhere else, in
any program, at any price...
This is part of what makes my program unique...
and when you see the body language of some of my
special guests, you'll immediately "get it", and
begin to understand how you need to modify your
own body language to trigger ATTRACTION with
women... rather than triggering FRIENDSHIP.
All the details, plus some great audio and
video samples are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=4
...and if you haven't downloaded your copy of
my online eBook "Double Your Dating" yet, then you
need to do that immediately. You can download it
right now and be reading it within just a few
minutes. It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=RZZZ3Z&lid=5
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.