Butterfly Rose's blog: "Somethings I want to Share"

The worse thing about being left for another woman is the insecurity that comes with imaginary comparisons between the "other woman" and us: Is she younger? Prettier? Better? Taller? Fun?

NO!!!

The fact is that he has not left you for another woman. He left the relationship and found the other woman a great excuse to do so. The added bonus is that the "other woman" becomes the focus of blame instead of him. 

Remember this!!!

Most women go through a myriad of emotions and physical upheavals that are filled with self-doubt and erode their self esteem until there is nothing left. The job of rebuilding their lives and themselves comes with a huge emotional price tag but in the end, they do far better than they ever thought because they rediscover things about themselves that had been long forgotten.

Forgotten Qualities

I miss you? I miss me!

It is normal to mourn a relationship, but often, women miss themselves and the person they used to be. Those inner qualities are still there and, in time, they will resurface with renewed strength.

The other woman is not the enemy, she is just an ignorant oaf, an interloper or has been kept in the dark about you all along by someone who lacked the moral fiber you thought, or hoped, he had. The fact is that she will eventually undergo the same situation or will put him through the same situation you are undergoing now. 

The old saying "if they do it with you, they'll do it to you" holds true most of the time because someone who cheats and is rewarded for his/her efforts will continue to repeat the behavior. These men have never seen the relationship in terms of "us" but in terms of "me". Replacing one partner with another is not a source of emotional distress, but emotional rewards over conquests and self gratification.

Eventually most women realize that they had made an error in judgment and placed desirable attributes on someone who did not have them or pretended to have them. At that juncture most women give themselves a kick in the pants, make a mental note to never make that mistake again and, with a breath of relief, count their blessings that he is someone else's problem. 

Sometimes the "other woman" can be a blessing in disguise; it may just take us a while to see things in that light whenever we look in the rear view mirror.