I've been in a writing mood recently because I have been approached or been in situations recently that have me thinking more about certain things. I don't know if it's the time of year, or something is in the air, but a lot of people, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, have came at me with this "Oh I'm so alone, I need somebody with me" stuff. And most of the times, my reply is, "That's life! You take the good with the bad". But more often than not, people opt for the bad, just so they won't be "alone".
I've tried to be understanding and accomodating to such behavior, but I'm just tired of it. So I'll put it like this.....THERE IS A DIFFERENCE IN BEING ALONE, AND BEING LONELY! You can be in a room full of people and not be alone, but still feel lonely. You can be all by yourself, ALONE, and not feel lonely. So the easiest way to put it, if you feel lonely, that's YOU, not the lack of company. Loneliness is a desperate emotion. And when you're desperate, you will do desperate things to alleviate that situation.
And the biggest thing, you'll take the QUICKEST OR MOST CONVENIENT OPTION to not be lonely. When the funniest thing is, no matter who you choose to be with or accompany, that feeling really isn't gone. I say it is in you or it is you because if you can't deal with yourself alone, who the fuck would want to deal with you as company? Your mindstate will attract like-minded people, or people in the same boat as you. And if you're in a sinking boat, why would you invite someone else from another sinking boat into yours, that won't help you "bale out the water". They'll just make you "sink faster".
You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Being "used to" having people around is no excuse for making nonsense decisions with who you associate with. You have to do some real soul-searching and get off your pity horse and live your life to the fullest. Nobody will complete you. If you're incomplete alone, you're incomplete with anybody. If getting high or drunk, or doing something dangerous for an adrenaline rush, or just good dick or pussy is your answer for loneliness, then let me pose another question to you. Where has it gotten you, and do you like where you're at because of it?
How many bad relationships and dilemmas will it take for you to say "I'm fed up with this shit! I'm sick of being around miserable people that do absolutely nothing to lift me up, but do so much to hold me down!". It took one for me. I stayed around too long all because I was content with the routine. And when I decided that I had enough, I was lost. Then I asked myself "Why does someone so horrible to me make me feel like I'm lost without them.". Only took a quick moment to realize that the main problem was ME! And ever since then, I have made sure that my physical, mental, and financial situation was in tact or that I was in the process of doing things to get me where I need to be.
I love hanging out with good people. I love being in the arms of a good woman. I love sex more than most of you. But I don't NEED those things. Those things accentuate who I am as a person, but do not define me or necessitate my being. I am comfortable in my own skin, and I feel great about myself. And because of that, I have made more money than I have in my entire working career. I am more confident than I have ever been. I have gotten in much better shape physically. And I'm more ambitious to go and get the things I want in my present and future life. And I did it ALONE!
But hey, this is just my opinion....my word ain't law....
