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Hello Blog land …. I wanted to get on here an tell you this is the last part of the show on Dr Phil….I don’t know if I will be putting more up after this but I'm sure I will cause it is something that has been going on in this world for years and it need to stop, but anyways I hope everyone is doing well…..I want everyone to know I'M not going to change name or anything on this story so feel free to say what you would like…… A Dramatic Turn Dr. Phil reflects on the results of the polygraph test, which indicate that Jeremy has been deceptive in his answers. “I don’t know whether you have touched your daughter inappropriately or not,” he tells Jeremy. “I know that this test is 92 percent accurate. I know that you gave responses that are very disturbing to me, and I have played two of those for you.” Dr. Phil says he is also bothered by Jeremy’s Internet activities, such as having the e-mail address analbastard@[censored].com. “That doesn’t give me a warm and fuzzy feeling about you,” he says. “But you’re up here getting on your high horse, and preaching about, ‘Yeah, you’re getting big ratings and you’re making money.’ You tell me, my friend, you tell me if I get a letter and a videotape of a child saying, ‘Somebody touched my pee-pee,’ if I get that, what do you expect me to do?” “Act on it like you have,” Jeremy concedes. “You get up on your high horse about ratings and money. Let me tell you, my friend, my interest here is in Kaylee,” Dr. Phil assures Jeremy. “I have offered you help. I have offered your daughter help. I have offered this family help. So don’t get self-righteous and sanctimonious with me.” Dr. Phil points out that Jeremy wasn’t complaining when one of Krista’s polygraph results indicated deception. “It was like, ‘Oh yeah.’ You were looking at her like, ‘There you go, bitch.’ That was pretty much your response then,” he observes. “But when it says you have been inappropriate with your daughter, then all of the sudden you’re a victim. And maybe you are. Maybe you haven’t done this.” “I haven’t,” Jeremy insists. “Maybe you’re part of that 8 percent,” Dr. Phil says. “I can’t know the answer to that question.” Voice quavering, Jeremy says, “I do know. I have never done anything to her. Never.” "If you’ve done this, I’m not trying to excuse that behavior whatsoever," Dr. Phil tells Jeremy. He gives Jeremy insight into how polygraph exams work. "They monitor involuntary responses in your body. Whenever you lie, your body response is an involuntary nature that you cannot control, if there is a feeling of guilt. I don’t know if you have been with her before when you’re cleaning her, bathing her, dealing with her, and without wanting to or meaning to, you became aroused, and you felt guilty about that after the fact. I don’t know what may have caused you to become aroused at the time." With a look of disgust, Jeremy says, "That’s so sick!" "I’m talking about on the test," Dr. Phil clarifies. "Why you reacted in a guilty fashion, a deceptive fashion." "I don’t know," Jeremy says. "Have you ever had a sexual arousal, an erection, at a time when you are with your daughter?" Dr. Phil presses. Jeremy replies, "What do you do when you’re making love to somebody and a child cries? You can't just sit there and let them cry, just because you have been, you know, making love to your spouse." Dr. Phil is confused. "One of us isn’t communicating very well. I’m not talking about when you have been with a woman, and your daughter was in the next room or in close proximity," he explains to Jeremy. "I’m talking about if you have ever experienced — however disgusting it might have been to you — have you ever experienced any arousal in connect with your daughter?" "Arousal?" Jeremy asks. "However despicable it might be to you, have you ever been bathing her, holding her, cleaning her, and found yourself getting sexual aroused?" Dr. Phil presses. "No!" "Intentionally or otherwise, that’s never occurred?" Dr. Phil asks. "You have no idea how she got a tear in her vaginal area?" Jeremy answers both questions in the negative. Dr. Phil addresses some remarks Jeremy made that perplexed him. "You talk about sleepwalking. You scratch your head about, 'Let's see. Have I ever put my tongue in her mouth?' You have to understand those things are just not normal," Dr. Phil says. "It’s not normal to have to go back through your memory banks and see whether or not you stuck your tongue in your daughter’s mouth or not. It doesn’t take me very long to go over that with myself, because that’s just so far out of the realm of possibility that I can answer now and think about it later. It just doesn’t happen. It took you a long time to answer that question." "I understand that," Jeremy replies. "I like to think about questions before I answer them, especially when it hits you like that, it’s just something that I — " "You knew about that accusation before you heard it from me. That wasn’t the first time you heard that," Dr. Phil challenges him Addressing Jeremy's wife, Danielle, Dr. Phil asks, "Is this little girl safe in your home?" Danielle replies, "I thought so." "Is this little girl safe in your home?" Dr. Phil reiterates. Sternly, he says, "Step up here and be a mother. Step up here and be a woman. You know there’s a point at which you have loyalty to your husband. There’s a point at which you want to have his back and stay the course, but there is a higher calling in this world. There is a higher calling in this situation, and there is a little girl involved here who doesn’t have the ability to protect herself. There is a little girl here who stands in harm's way if something is going on there, and you can step up as a woman and a mother and do the right thing." "I never had any reason to believe that she wasn’t until we got these tests. I don’t really know if they’re right or not. I mean, it’s hard to sit here and think that they’re not," Danielle says through tears. "How am I supposed to sit here the whole time and believe that he’s been molesting her when I haven’t even seen him do anything close, seen him anywhere near being inappropriate with her? If I would’ve, I would’ve said something. There are times when I’ve walked in the door from getting the mail, and she’s crying, and I ask him why she’s crying, and he tells me that I look at him like he’s guilty. I just don’t want her being hurt." "Can you look at Krista? However much you like her or don’t like her, you two have the common bond of being mothers," Dr. Phil tells Danielle. "You have a child in your womb as we speak. Can you look at her and tell her, 'I know your baby is safe in my home'?" Danielle replies, "Not anymore. I could’ve before." "Can you look at her and tell her, 'We may not like each other, but I don’t want your baby hurt'? Can you honestly look her in the eye and say that?" Dr. Phil asks Danielle. Visibly shaken, Danielle looks at Krista. "I love Kaylee like she’s my own," she says. "I can’t stand when she gets scratched; that bothers me. Do you not realize that I do care about her?" Krista replies, "I don’t know how you couldn’t. I don’t know how anybody could hurt her. She’s the sweetest kid you’ll ever meet. But apparently people can." Addressing Jeremy, Dr. Phil says, "Do you have an appreciation for the impact on a child that has been molested?" "Oh yeah," Jeremy replies. "It messes them up so much." Dr. Phil asks, "Is it possible, knowing that your father has plead guilty to fondling a child, is it possible that he’s done that with you?" "You know, there is absolutely nothing that I can remember that has happened to me. Nothing," Jeremy maintains. "Do you believe that Kaylee believes that she has been inappropriately touched by you?" Dr. Phil asks. Jeremy answers in the negative. "When Kaylee says, ‘He, they, — she’s used both pronouns — touched my pee pee, don’t let them do it again,' do you believe that she believes that you have been inappropriate with her?" Dr. Phil asks. "I hope to God she doesn’t. I don't know. She’s 3 years old," Jeremy says. He explains that when he took Kaylee to the emergency room when she complained of problems in her vaginal area, the doctor said, "'Well, I can tell this child hasn’t been molested,' and he named some piece of skin or something up inside a woman, that hasn’t been penetrated." "Well, I wasn’t there, and I wasn’t in on that conversation, but the fact that the hymen has not been broken does not mean the child hasn’t been molested," Dr. Phil explains. "And if he said that based on that being intact, then he needs to go back to medical school." Hope for the Future Addressing Krista and Bonii, Dr. Phil says, "You two are completely convinced that she has been molested by Jeremy because he has failed a polygraph test." Krista responds, "And because [Kaylee] says it." Turning to Jeremy, Dr. Phil says, "What do you think the mother of this child should do, given the information she has now about this polygraph exam?" "That is a very good question," Jeremy replies. "Should she allow the child to be with you without supervision?" Dr. Phil probes. "That’s a tough question. I understand where she’s sitting. If the tables were turned, if it were her or one of her boyfriends and I was accusing them, and all this were turned around, I understand," Jeremy says. "Should she allow this child to be with you, given the information that she has?" Dr. Phil reiterates. "I’ll take multiple lie detector tests. I’m not going to sit here and say I’ll take a lie detector test until I pass it," Jeremy clarifies. "Obviously, I failed it. Why? I don’t know. Have I ever touched Kaylee? No." Do you need professional help?" Dr. Phil asks Jeremy. Jeremy answers, "I need professional help getting through this stuff. You fail a polygraph test, what do you think that does to me, in my head? I know I didn’t do this." Bonii chimes in, "This show is not about you. It’s about Kaylee." "As somebody in Kaylee’s life, do you need professional help? You’ve talked about the fact that you hear voices screaming in your head on a pretty regular basis," Dr. Phil tells Jeremy. "I talked about that when we did the first show that we did with you. I talked about the fact that you work in a highly stressful situation, near molten, hot substances, and you have a real fear of falling in there, or seeing someone fall in there, and there’s a lot of yelling and screaming, and this really haunts you in your head." When Dr. Phil asks Jeremy again if he needs professional help, Jeremy replies, "I’m already getting professional help. I’m already seeing a psychiatrist." "But are you dealing with the issues that need to be dealt with?" Dr. Phil inquires. "I think we’re working on it. I think that my doctor needs to be aware of what happened today, and then it’s his job to find out why," Jeremy replies. "What do you want for Kaylee?" Dr. Phil asks Jeremy. "I want to be with Kaylee. She’s my daughter. I’ve never touched her. I never will. Not in any way, shape or form that could be construed as inappropriate," Jeremy maintains. "I love my daughter. I want to have a life for her." Turning to Danielle, Dr. Phil asks, "What do you want to see happen with Kaylee?" She replies, "I want to find out for sure what happened with him before I can even answer that." Dr. Phil maintains that he is an impartial party who is only presenting evidence of alleged molestation. "Short of somebody seeing this, short of [Jeremy] confessing to it, nobody can know. Is a polygraph perfect? It is not. It is a good tool. It is certainly an adjunct to an investigation and has a high degree of reliability. Is it flawless? Of course it’s not," he explains. "What I do know is that there are enough signs that point to 'yes' here that I am required, and intend within the next 24 hours, to inform Child Protective Services in your area exactly what is going on, as is my professional responsibility to do. The whole point here is Kaylee." Addressing Krista, Dr. Phil says, "You have no doubt that she has been inappropriately touched by Jeremy." "I have no doubt," she replies. "As a parent, you have to proceed with that consideration. You have to treat that as reality," Dr. Phil advises. "Now, the first thing that has to happen here is you have to calm down. You know what I criticized before about all the histrionics with the child. I don't like for children to see parents fighting in front of them. It changes who they are. Children have this unique ability to blame themselves when they see people they love in pain ... I'll promise you that is a possibility with Kaylee." Dr. Phil says that in spite of the conflict that has arisen from the molestation accusations, there is still hope for Kaylee's future. "Children are very resilient, but I definitely believe that there needs to be professional help in this situation. If you're willing to accept it, I'm going to arrange that for you immediately, and get her focus back on being an innocent little girl." Dr. Phil says that based on Krista's assumption that Jeremy has molested their daughter, "You have to petition everybody involved, Child Protective Services, the court — everyone who can and will listen — to not allow him the opportunity to do that ever, ever again." Turning to Jeremy, Dr. Phil says, "If this was us sitting here talking about a boyfriend on her part, you would want exactly the same thing." "Yeah," Jeremy says. Addressing Krista, Dr. Phil says, "What happens with that is up to the court, it's up to Child Protective Services, their recommendations, and what the court will do. But you've got to do everything you can to protect her." Krista interjects, "That's what I've been doing. I already knew before the test." "But you can do that without being histrionic about it. You can do that without subjecting her to all the machinations of all of that, because she pays the price for that," Dr. Phil says. "I told you before, I didn't criticize your concern. I criticized the hysterical, animated, crying, yelling, fighting, taping, tug-of-war that was going on with this child. That is not something a child should be subjected to." Dr. Phil says that Kaylee will probably require professional help from a skilled child psychologist. "We'll find that and we'll arrange it for her. I'm very, very sensitive to not over-treating children. The last thing we want her to do is label herself." Pointing out that Krista is 20 years old and has three children, Dr. Phil says, "You need to stop having children for a while." "I know," Krista says. Turning to Jeremy, Dr. Phil says, "We will communicate with your psychiatrist, and let him know what's going on, so he can do whatever he thinks is appropriate in this situation." "I'm willing to, in any way, shape or form, take this to the next step. What about taking a test on my part that I have absolutely no control of? I'm willing to go under hypnosis," Jeremy vows. "You can do anything you want," Dr. Phil replies. "You should talk to your psychiatrist about that and see if he feels that that's an appropriate investigative tool to find out what's going on with you." The Final Word Addressing polygrapher Howard Swabash in the audience, Dr. Phil says, "You have no doubt that he is molesting his daughter." "No, sir," Howard replies. "You base that on his results but also on his test behavior." Howard says, "Many years of experience in dealing with people who are sexual predators." Pointing out that the polygrapher has more than 20 years of experience, Dr. Phil says, "You know that the kind of high horse, arrogant behavior here is also very indicative of those people. I don't know. Is there another possiblity? Frankly, there is. You can never be sure unless you just keep piling up data. I think we're making a responsible run at it." He thanks Howard for his time. I wanted to say Thank You to everyone that has taking the time to read my blog the last three days....This well keep up tell we have ppl that are willin to stop this so I will keep putting blog up like this....Thank you again for take the time to read this I hope everyone will step up and put a stop to this.......... HUGS N KISSES Jill Ps the pic is from the show here is where you can go look at this show at http://www.drphil.com/ http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/789/ PS.I wanted to put this up here to show you the signs of a child that has beeen sexual messed with Please take the time to look over this.... Thanks again Jill Sexual Predator Warning Signs Brad and Kenda were devastated when they learned their teenage son molested his little sister as well as other underage victims. Were there warning signs that their son was troubled? Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil advisory board and Dr. Phil's mentor, offers some insight into the development of a sexual predator: "The typical sexual predator is very immature in his or her understanding of intimacy. It is like they really want closeness, but they lack the skills to feel satisfaction and trust. These feelings of frustration erupt into anger many times, and it is in this stage that the individual can become dangerous. Their acts are desperate. They try to find intimacy and caring for themselves, but when they can't find it in appropriate ways, they demand it or find a child who has little resistance," says Dr. Lawlis. "It is common to find parents of sexual predators also weak in skills of affection. Consequently, they cannot train or offer to meet these needs for their child. And then the cycle continues." There are some common characteristics of sexual predators. If you're worried your teen may be a sexual predator, look for these warning signs: Refusal to take responsibility for actions and blames others or circumstances for failures A sense of entitlement Low self-esteem Need for power and control Lack of empathy Inability to form intimate relationships with adults History of abuse Troubled childhood Deviant sexual behavior and attitudes From the book, Protecting Your Children from Sexual Predators, by Dr. Leigh M. Baker. Protecting Your Children A series of recent high-profile child abduction cases has touched a nerve with parents across the nation. Too many parents think such tragedies only happen to "other people." That's not true, and there are steps you can take to protect your kids — without scaring them. Talk to your kids early and often. Teach them to self-protect. Don't be afraid that you'll make them paranoid. Children actually feel empowered when they feel understand that they have the power to protect themselves. Don't ask children to deal with adult issues. Explain things in terms they can understand, such as good and evil. Don't share the gory details with them. Tell your kids to avoid strangers. Adults just don't ask kids for directions. While it's important for children to respect adults and those in authority, give them permission to act impolite, rude, or scream and yell when they feel that something's not right. It's OK for them to make a scene or to yell for help, and let them know they will not get in trouble if they were mistaken. Teach kids to yell with specificity: "This is not my Daddy!" or "Somebody help me!" Role play with your children to practice how they should respond. Don't dress them in clothing that has their name on it. When they hear someone use their name, they often believe it's a signal for safety. Teach your kids a code word that only you and they know to indicate that there is possible danger. The number one defense for kids is to run away. They need to run to a public place with a lot of people. Watch your kids! Keep a close eye on them. And don't assume that others to whom you entrust your child are as vigilant as you are. To make sure they are, test it out. Send a friend to pick up your child, for example, and see if the school allows it. Let your child know he/she can talk to you about anything and everything, including body parts. Remember: Pedophiles are sick individuals — but they look just like everyone else. They embed themselves in everyday society. They are not extremists you can spot walking down the street. Pay attention to people who spend an inordinate amount of time with kids, and don't have any of their own. You may be suspicious when you needn't be, but it's better to have "false positives" than to not raise your eyebrows when you should.