When people find a man or woman they love and want to spend all their time with, they often fool themselves into believing that their relationship will always be smooth sailing without any problems. The truth of the matter is that there are bound to be problems and issues in every relationship and the secret to a happy, fulfiling relationship is how you can work around those issues.
If you and your partner are fighting very often and can't seem to rekindle your love, read on for helpful tips on how you can bring back the joy in your relationship.
Blame game
The first thing you need to stop doing is to blame your partner or yourself for things going wrong. If you are experiencing problems, discuss it and don't just get accusatory. You and your partner are only human, so don't think he or she will automatically know your issues. You voice them. And by voicing them it does not mean you start yelling or making snide remarks; it means you sit down and have a mature conversation.
The change factor
When someone is constantly nagging you to change the way you are or certain aspects of your behaviour, doesn't it make you angry? Similarly, are you always nagging your partner to change? This kind of nagging is enough to take the joy out of any relationship. Learn to accept not just your partner but all people for who they are. If you love this man or woman you need to accept both their positive and negative aspects.
Art of listening
Do you really listen to what your partner is saying or do you conveniently listen to what you want to hear? To really listen, you need to get out of your own head and actually understand what your partner is saying. Instead of focusing on how you will react to his or her words or what you're going to say next, pay attention to the point your partner is trying to make.
Patience is a virtue
In today's day and age when everything is done at the snap of a finger, people start expecting relationships to work in a second as well. This can't happen because people need time to develop a bond and to know each other. So take time, be patient, and allow your partner to get close to you. Don't try to hurry everything; you mught just scare him or her away.
The Basics of Love
In this age of stressful careers, one really needs to work on relationships. If there is love, then the problems can be solved as the basic motivation to do so is there. But, if one partner has moved on, then problems might get too complex. If one doesn't understand why they are reacting in a particular way while dealing with a situation in their relationship, then only psychiatrist can help.
If a couple has been dating for more than two years, then there is intense emotional attachment. One can't just give up on the relationship. Instead, one should try and overcome the obstacles. What is needed is good balance. On the one hand, make sure you give your partner enough space to grow as an individual. At the same time, you need to re-kindle the closeness. Make sure you spend a lot of time with each other - like going on a holiday together.
