If you are married go get the video of the ceremony (those of you who aren't pay attention) now watch the vows, no where in those vows does it say "when you fight you must fight to the death, no settlements", for the love of God even though we all "know" we are right in an argument say "i am sorry or say "you are right" *even though you know they are WRONG AND YOU ARE RIGHT DAMMNIT*. It doesn't make you anything but a good spouse and if you plan to stay married until you are 98 and you can't do this then don't plan on finding another person to help you find your false teeth.