Well let me start by saying after 15 years together with the same person it was hell. I felt the obligation and she did not it was not meant to be but i hung in there forgive forgive forgive. What did i get thrown out that is what i got she said leave one time to many so i rsvp her offer. If the spouse not faithful do you really have a marriage or do you just have a tax shelter. Which is it you tell me i felt used it took me the first few years to get her to marry me. Now looking back at those twelve years i feel like a class A fool used like toilet paper and thrown away.