As a psychological observation
Typically when something happens bad in any family you see someone at their weakest moment. Even tho I am a grief counselor/psychologist I have my faults and am not perfect. However why is it I am suppose to maintain my emotions and not get upset? I find that to be a very double standard. You also find out who are the ones who love and care for you in your moment of weakness. When you need someone are they there? I have been there for all of the remaining children of my grandmother. Mind you she had 17. She has 7 children remaining, their children grandchildren great etc. And not one of these woman have been there for me. My mother went into her shell and stopped talking to the world. My aunts and their children have become green with greed and tried to vulturize what they can. The moment came when the executor was annouced and it was me. They were all told to get out of her home and to put back everything they took. As whispers go thru the wake and funeral I have made my mind to make them wait 6 months to read the will. Since by then they will be able to think with a unelevated hormone levels.
I do have some amazing friends and my sister has been great. But I feel alone in this. Some say Im hard to please. No not really. Just that I need unconditional support through this. Not to be seen as a dr, but a woman who had to take care of everything yet again because her family cant be level in making conscience decisions. Im human and living in a world that is damned.
Its not a great feeling to feel alone.