I met a lady and I helped her in every way. I bought her kids a bed, I bought her a car, computers, washers, dryers, took her grocery shopping and was always there for her no matter what. We do have a child together, the car was to be used for my child to go to preschool. The car was used for everything but taking our child to school. It was used for her other kids whom she has 4 other fathers from who in turn barely do anything for her. I have also purchased digital cameras for her since she is into photography. The first one she broke in about 4 years. The second one, I paid $1000 for. She tells all of her friends that "I helped her buy it." She broke that camera in a year. I purchased these camera's in hopes that she would get off the system and start working.
I have always been there fro her, whether she paid me back or not. She speaks badly of her friends and her own family behind their backs and does the same thing to me. I feel I have to help her because we have a child together. She does use our child against me in many ways. She plays herself off as a nice, christian woman with morals. But yet takes from me and never gives back. She acts as if I never do anything for her. I think because she lives off the system and child support she has no respect for what it takes to pay for these items. She brings in Close to $3,000 a month and pays $600 rent. She has 6 kids from five different men.
Why am I writing this, I am writing this just to vent. Just to put down some digital dialogue.
To me, no matter how obvious, its hard for me to believe that people like this exist. I cant fathom the thought that I had a child with such a person. I spoke to her X one time and asked me if she was overly sweet for the first two weeks and than changed. I agreed.
For me, I would not be able to live with myself knowing how I have to use people in order to get ahead. Knowing that I use my kids as a tool and dollar signs rather than just my kids. But I guess, that would be considered having morals and ethics.
To her, I say this. You know who you are, you know how badly you talk of your friends and your own family behind their back. You know what I have done for you and what you really owe me. Its not really about the owing part...it's more of the TRYING to pay it back rather than getting glamor shots done. As a father I have done more than my share to help you achieve what you needed to. Here we are, 8 years later and you are pretty much still in the same exact place as you were when I met you. Just a different location.
For me, I moved on. Moved on yes, feeling used and abused yes. But when my day comes.. I will know that I helped you. I know that taught you many things and given all I possibly could.
For you, what have you given society, you haven't given society anything, you only take. What have you done to help your kids out..nothing.. if the fathers took off you would be screwed. So when you buy your boyfriend something, let him know that it was the kids Child support and that he can thank the fathers for the money. Or, if you say it came from SS, you can tell him he can thank himself and the millions of other Americans that go to work each and every day so that people like yourself can thrive. TO me, you are no more than a parasite on the ass of society. You are sucking the blood out of us in order of yourself to live.
You, if you had any morals and ethics should be ashamed, embarrassed and just down right walking with your head down.
Realize what was given to you,,who you should truly thank and where the money comes from every time you spend a penny. Realize how you have to lie in shame in order to get away with things.
We were put on this earth to help one another to make this world a better place to live in. Not cheat, lie, steal and take. But than again, Some of us can go on like.. I am not one of them.
Live with yourself, who you are and what you become. Can you parents say they are proud of you?
Am I jealous of your new found love. No, Far from it. I am just feeling used and abused and I would like better for our child. Our child should have a nice padded bank account for her college but with you pissing the money off on ebay...that makes it kind of hard. Jealous I am not. I lived and I learned.
