hi,
I just happened to see that you stated that you support or invited people who have suffered or struggled through a loss of a child..
I just wanted to say that I have suffered through the loss of a child....
my beautiful daughter who is now 3 years old was and is a twin.....unfortunately my other daughter had passed 24 minutes after birth, they were almost 3 months early. My daughter now who is as i stated 3, she was 2lbs 7oz and my other daughter who passed was 1lb 7oz.
It was such a great day and terrible also, talk about a huge mix of emotions....
my ex and I knew early on in the pregnancy that we were going to lose a child. Due to improper development, my child that I lost had an (ancepholie) (thats probably not spelled right) basic terms the top of her head was not developed when she was born and it was exposed. The longest a child ever survived with one was 7 days... my ex and I made a hard choice to not do anything to help our child just to let her pass on her own and not try to save her and put her through much pain. so on the day of my daughters birth...the one with the problem was brought out first.. through a c-section of course and my surviving daughter was rushed to the RICN clinic.... within 5 minutes I was holding my daughter with a little hat, knowing that anytime she could pass... I have sooooo many pictures of her and I look at them everday.. my surviving daughter knows who her sister is she knows her by her pictures... anyway... my ex she dont remember anything unfortuntaley due to drugs and stuff she was on from spinal to what ever else the hospital gave her.... she just sees pictures of her and our daughter... the hardest part that i remember though, i remember it sooo clearly like it happened 1 minute ago... was while i was holding my daughter looking down at her and the nurse coming up to me and checking her heart..and shaking her head at me... my child died in my arms...so she at least died knowing that she was loved and adored...up to her very last moments...she is always in my thoughts everyday..
so fathers and mothers out there who need to talk or write....just to help cope and deal... they got a friend here
thanks
T
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