For the next two weeks I will barely be around. I'll be here but mostly not. I know, not much different then now. Except, I may be a few days here and there or not on at all. It's crunch time before court!!!!!
My home study is coming up next week, then week after is court. EKKK!!!!! No one can understand why he is doing this, he has no real reason, oh, and he's deployed!!! I have several things around the house I need to get worked on. Weather has been nice and we have had some awful winds and storms. Got tons of yard work that also needs done. It sucks when you only really have one full day off work to try and do all this. I don't want there to be ANY reason my house would not/could not pass this home study. I don't think there is any reason, but I don't know what her standards are. People keep telling me to settle down, I have nothing to worry about. Hey, I'm just wanting to make sure....
Talked to my lawyer today, and he has talked to his lawyer. Ex is trying to claim he fears I will alienate the girls from him, and that I have been uncooperative since we were divorcing. Excuse me??? Our decree is written as he wanted, except for 1 part I made sure was in there as we had discussed, the girls returning to me this summer for good. Yet, he can't even follow something he has written. He picks and chooses what he wants to. I guess it's been my fault for allowing him to, just because I didn't want to have to go through what I am now. But the first and only time I have put my foot down....here we are. As for alienating....uhmm....this isn't when we first started the war....the first time he was there. They do have phones and internet more so then before. He knows he can write/call/whatever anytime... He will know when his R&R is, and those arrangements can be made. When he gets back, he'll get his visitations. Oh, and my husband will make double sure that I allow him all his holidays unlike I had been allowed. I will not use his excuses that "there isn't enough days for them to travel and settle back down before school" like he tells me. It does just piss me off. My lawyer tells me not to sweat it, my ex likely is in a panic realizing that while he is gone, he is losing what control he did still have in just a few months. I just can't wait for this to be over with and to hold my daughters in my arms again.
Another thing that has me mad is this past week was their spring break, and I didn't know that. I thought is was later on. No one told me when it actually would be. I was never given the option of bringing them here or anything. It was my turn to have them this year for it. Instead, they spent the week with the new wife's family, and new wife wasn't with them!!!
In 2 weeks this will all be over. Hopefully in 2 weeks it will be proven my ex has no more control over me, and can no longer bully me. In 2 weeks I will hopefully be able to proudly stand tall that he didn't threaten me until I give up in fear. Hopefully in 2 weeks I will win!!
